This is the Way I Live (on IJ)

There is a very fine line between "hobby" and "mental illness." - Dave Barry

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Stop making this my problem! @ 11:00 pm


My mom fell in the bathroom last night. I found out when the phone call from Lifeline woke me up this morning.

Five hours later, I talked to the E.R. doctor, who said:
  1. The X-rays, C-scan and blood tests all look fine, so he has no basis to admit her to the hospital.
  2. My mother is not mentally incompetent and has the legal right to make her own decisions.
  3. He refuses to release her without assurance that she will have 24/7 care.
But my mother refuses to move into a nursing home, even just for a couple weeks, and every time I arrange home care for her she ends up sending them away. So what is the doc going to do, keep her in the ER indefinitely? And why is everyone asking me what to do - I'm half a continent away and they just told me she is competent to make her own decisions.

The last I heard was that her regular home care lady is willing to spend 12 hours per day with her, and was going to try to get her to sign papers hiring a nurse to be with her the other 12. Actually, they wanted me to sign the papers, but why should I, if mom has the right to make her own decisions? Also, I don't have a fax machine.

If she does sign, this will cost $345 per day. I'll give it a week, then decide if I have to fly home to stay with her until I can hire someone less expensive than a nurse. She may have thrown them all out of her house by then.

Just now I found a voice mail on my cell phone from the company that provides nurses. They wanted to know if I wanted them to take one of mom's checks and buy her a commode to keep by the bed. IDK - Ask my mother. Leave me out of this.

I so do not want this responsibility.

And now we have discovered that my cat, Vimesie, has escaped the house and run away. She's done this three times before in her life and obviously always come home. But I'm sick with worry. I want my baby kitty back so bad...

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This is the Way I Live (on IJ)

There is a very fine line between "hobby" and "mental illness." - Dave Barry